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5 Ways To Empower Yourself


The first step in empowering yourself is to understand and believe that no one has power over the way you think, feel or act.  To be mentally strong you cannot have a victim mentality!

1)    Change Your Daily Vocabulary – In everything you think or do, realize that you have a choice!  Instead of saying, “I have to do the dishes,” you should say, “I am choosing to do the dishes.”  Or, instead of saying, “I have to work over the weekend,” you should say, “I am choosing to work over the weekend.”  There may be some consequences for your choices, but you must admit that you have a choice!  When we do, we feel empowered.

2)    Don’t Waste Your Time Feeling Sorry For Yourself – Many people keep score of how many problems they have and how many hardships they have endured.  Worrying about or wallowing in your problems will not make them go away or change in any way.  Self-pity is bondage.  It keeps you from finding a solution and it destroys any hope to find joy along the way.  Problems and disappointments are inevitable, but feeling sorry for yourself is a choice!  We can always control our attitude, no matter the outcome!

3)    Don’t Waste Your Energy On Things You Can’t Control – If you complain and worry you not only waste your time, but your energy.  Next time, invest that energy into something that you can control, like trying to find a solution to the problem at hand.  If there is no solution to be found at that time, worrying or complaining still will not help change the circumstance or get rid of the problem.  Instead, try to help someone else or work on something else.  This will not only take your mind off the problem, but you will be blessed with joy knowing you helped someone else or finished another project.


4)    Don't Dwell On The Past – Learning from the past empowers you, but dwelling on your failures is harmful.  Do not make excuses or try to hide from your failures.  Humble yourself and evaluate why it happened.  Next time you will be more prepared.  Also, don’t keep questioning the choices you have made.  You have to just make peace with the past, learn from it.  Live in the present and look forward to the future, two things that you can control.

5)    Do Not Resent Other People’s Success – Envy and jealousy are destructive and they keep you from being focused on what you need to be doing to reach your goals or what you desire.  When you see someone succeed or purchase something you want, be genuinely happy for them!  Their achievement does not place limitations upon you or what you can achieve.


Practice these 5 steps daily and you will find yourself accomplishing more and having much more joy.  Pay careful attention to how you choose to respond to situations, disappointments and problems that arise.  If you want to empower yourself, look for ways you can grow, and be inspired to become better tomorrow than you are today.



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