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3 Steps To Overcoming The Fear Of Failing


We have all felt the fear of failing at some point in our lives.  Whether it be fearing to ask someone out on a date in high school, or the fear of losing a big client in business, fear is felt.  Unfortunately what happens most often when we fear something, we do not tackle it head on.  We try to walk around it or close our eyes to it and hope it goes away.

The problem with this, however, is that the fear remains and the desired outcome is rarely accomplished.  To achieve something, anything, we risk failure.  We need to not only acknowledge this, but be Okay with it.  The cost of not achieving our desired goal needs to be greater than the fear of failure.


3 Steps To Overcoming The Fear Of Failure

1)     Acknowledge Your Fear – When you acknowledge your fear, you take away some of its power.  You face it and look it right in the eye.  Sometimes this can be scary, but it is necessary.  We cannot battle a foe that we do not see it.  Once you acknowledge it, you can then look for the root of it and find a way to overcome it..

2)    Pull The Fear Out By Its Roots – When you see the root of your fear, it is easier to deal with it.  You can make a plan and take action.  For example, you were rejected by three different people when you asked them out.  When you acknowledge this fear in asking the fourth person out, and see the root of it, “NO” for an answer, you can make a plan to change the next result.  Maybe change what you are saying.  Maybe take a bath! 

Likewise, if you are afraid to lose a client, or maybe not get one that you would like, you need to ask “why?”  Again, reflecting on your fear and finding the root, you will be better able to find a solution and have more of a probability to gain success the next time.

3)     Attack The Fear – Once you made a plan and realized the action you need to take, TAKE IT!  Do not dwell on the fear.  Do not give it a second thought.  Be laser focused on the success you want and don’t worry about not accomplishing it.  Life is life and sometimes we fail, but it is better to deal with it when it happens and learn from it, than worrying about it and being paralyzed to do anything.  This can be hard work.  It takes decisive determination and a conscious effort.


If you do not make the decision to tackle your fear, you will most likely lose out anyway.  If you don’t ask, you don’t get.  If you don’t overcome your fear, you will never succeed.  I love what Joyce Myers says, “It’s OK to be afraid, but sometimes you just need to do things afraid!’ 

Fear should not stop you.  Even if you are afraid, you can still do what you need to do.  Just do it afraid.  Overcome your fear by choosing to plow through with what you need to do, even if you are afraid.


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